Sunday, November 18, 2012

Blogs I Read: T.J. Addington's Leading from the Sandbox

T.J. Addington is a leader within our family of churches and a consultant for other ministries. His blog is normally about leadership philosophy and practices (that's what the "Sandbox" is in his blog title) as well as missiology.  He also posts on life application of scripture. (A few years ago, T.J. had a perfect storm of medical problems and spent months in a hospital hovering between life and death.  What he learned during that difficult time became the focus of his book When Life Comes Undone.)

T.J.'s posts are always brief, readable, and focused on one main point (normally expressed in the title). They don't take long to read but almost always give you something to think about when it comes to your own leadership. I don't always agree with T.J., but he always gives me something to mull over.

T.J.'s focus often leads him to write about dysfunctional relationships within organizations, and sometimes that touches on my literary nemesis--gossip.

For example, his recent post about When We Take Up the Offense of Others delves into the dynamics of hearing about a problem secondhand and then taking up that offense for someone else, and the difficulties that come from it. T.J. says, "Picking up someone else's offense is foolish, bad EQ, unbliblical and causes relational havoc beyond what was necessary. It is one thing to seek to help resolve an issue in a healthy and productive manner. But once you take up another's offense there is no good way out."  

That gives me something to chew on. I like that.

Little known fact: thirty years ago, T.J.'s brother used to be the pastor of the church I now pastor. Their father just went to be with the Lord, and T.J. penned a sweet tribute.

I'm thankful for Leading from the Sandbox, and pleased that T.J. was willing to offer an endorsement for Resisting Gossip:
“Matt Mitchell tackles one of the most common, destructive but least talked about sins in this book. While gossip destroys, Matt’s suggestions on alternatives to gossip that build trust and relationship are practical and helpful. Our words, good and bad are powerful and this book can be a helpful tool in helping God’s people consider their words, attitudes and practices.  I highly recommend it.” – T.J. Addington, Executive Director of ReachGlobal, author of Leading from the Sandbox, High-Impact Church Boards, Live Like You Mean It, and When Life Comes Undone.

0 comments: