Thursday, September 03, 2015

Resisting Gossip: Winning the War of the Wagging Tongue



One Year Old!

Resisting Gossip was released on September 3, 2013 by CLC Publications.

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Preview, download, and read the endorsements, table of contents, foreword by Ed Welch of CCEF, introduction, and first chapter here.

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Go deeper into Resisting Gossip with the new participant's guide and Bible study Resisting Gossip Together, the corresponding video teaching series, and the Spanish version, Resistiendo el Chisme.

#23. What should we NOT pray for?

Christian Prayer Catechism: Question #23

Q. What should we NOT pray for?

A. We should not pray for our lusts.


"When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures" (James 4:3). God will not be used.

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Friday, August 28, 2015

Love Walked Among Us - Review & Discussion Guide

I was having a great conversation yesterday with a friend about this terrific book (which has a new cover and is now available in multiple formats) and realized that my short review isn't available on my blog anywhere.

So here it is:

Loved Walked Among Us has quickly become one of my “everyone” books.

As soon as I read it, I ordered a case of copies to put in the hands of everyone in our church and everyone who crossed my path.  Paul Miller’s keen study of how Jesus loved people is fresh, unique, and eminently readable–full of winsome wisdom in succinct sentences and 3D stories.

Everyone can profit from reading it–from closet Pharisees (like me) to honest unbelievers searching out the true identity of Jesus.  Miller takes us on a tour of the gospels, shining a spotlight on the surprising ways and whys of Jesus’ love for people and connecting the dots to our lives today.  The book is the condensed fruit of a longer study of the Person of Jesus available on the author’s helpful website: SeeJesus.net.

The only thing missing in LWAU is a chapter by chapter discussion guide for small groups, so I wrote one for our church.  Love Walked Among Us climaxes with our Lord’s death and resurrection, making it a great book for everyone to read as Easter approaches.  Buy two copies: one to read and one to give away.

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This review was originally published in EFCA Today (Winter 2009) and is used with permission.

Thursday, August 27, 2015

#22. What should we pray for?

Christian Prayer Catechism: Question #22

Q. What should we pray for?

A. We should pray for whatever concerns us and those we are called to love.


The Bible gives us a host of things to pray for (ex. Matt. 6:9-15, 1 Tim. 2:1-2, Col 4:2-5). Nothing in life is off-limits for prayer. We need to pray for ourselves, loved ones, church family, for the advance of the Gospel, for government, for health and healing, for spiritual warfare, etc.

Wednesday, August 26, 2015

And the Winner Is...

... Heather Dobo!

Congratulations, Heather, on winning a copy of God Made All Of Me by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb.

Thank you, everyone, who entered the contest and shared with others about this helpful new resource.

Remember, New Growth Press is offering about $100 worth of free resources for those who pre-order a copy before it comes out on September 8th. Check out the website for details.

Interview with Authors
Info-Graphic About Child Abuse

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

I Don't Hate My Guts Anymore - Health Update

Rejoice with me!

My surgery on July 29th was a success, and I'm well on the way to recovery.

Today I had my last follow-up visit with my surgeon, and he has cleared me, as I feel able, to go back to work, exercise, and activity.

I still have various post-surgery aches and pains, get tuckered out easily, and need to be careful how I add things to my diet, but I'm feeling much better, have lost 34 pounds, and am happy to have regained a properly working digestive system. (I guess I won't write that book on Resisting Diverticulitis after all).

I have so many things I'm thankful for:

- My remarkable wife who walked with me every step of this difficult Summer.

- Prayerful and caring friends and family. Visits, cards, calls, a load of gravel, help for Heather, and so much more.

- A supportive team of church elders and a congregation that have given me time and space to heal.

- The skillful hands of my surgeon and the expertise of his medical team.

- An amazing set of nurses and aides on the third floor at Dubois Hospital. Today, I dropped off a few dozen donuts to say thanks for their excellent care for me those 11 days I live under their watchcare. They have a difficult job, and they do it with panache.

- Lessons I've learned in the school of affliction. As I begin to feel better, I don't want to forget them.

- These and so much more are my Lord's mercies which are served up fresh and hot each day.

I'm really excited about to getting back into full time active ministry: preaching the word, equipping the saints, shepherding the flock, and making disciples of Jesus Christ.

I know that each day I get is a gift, and I resolve to use them for what really counts--His Kingdom and His righteousness.

An Interview with Justin and Lindsey Holcomb about #GodMadeAllOfMe

Sexual abuse hurts children, families, and communities like few other sins. The statistics are dishearteningly high and the painful results are utterly devastating.

And yet, most parents have been almost completely unprepared to talk to their children about how to prevent and respond to sexual abuse. I know that when my kids were little, I had almost no idea of what to say to them that would be helpful without frightening them.

That's why I'm excited about this brand new book from Justin and Lindsey Holcomb, God Made All Of Mewhich comes out on September 8th.

I've gotten a sneak peak, and it's very good. I wish it existed ten years ago!

The Holcombs were kind enough to answer some questions* about this new resource.

What prompted you to write God Made All of Me? Who are you hoping will read and use it? Why did you use the "children's storybook" approach?

The book is for 2-8 year olds. We wrote it because we have two young children and know that
parents need tools to help talk with their kids about their bodies and to help them understand the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touch. It allows families to build a first line of defense against sexual abuse in the safety of their own homes. Our goal is to help parents and caregivers in protecting their children from sexual abuse. Because private parts are private, there can be lots of questions, curiosity, or shame regarding them. For their protection, children need to know about private parts and understand that God made their body and made it special.

Our hope is that parents and caregivers will use this book to help you in protecting their child from sexual abuse. We want parents and caregivers to be smarter and better prepared than those who would want to harm children. While we know that actions by adults can be more effective than expecting children to protect themselves from sexual abuse, children still need accurate, age-appropriate information about child sexual abuse and confidence their parents and caregivers will support them. That is why we used the storybook approach.

In God Made All of Me, you were intentional about using the terms “appropriate” and “inappropriate,” when referring to kinds of touch, instead of the words “good” or “bad.” Why is that?
It is important to be clear with adults and children about the difference between touch that is appropriate and touch that is inappropriate. Experts discourage any use of the phrases “good touch” and “bad touch” for two main reasons. First, some sexual touch feels good and then children get confused wondering if it was good or bad. Second, children who have been taught “good touch” or “bad touch” would be less likely to tell a trusted adult as they perceive they have done something bad.

To your child say something like: “Most of the time you like to be hugged, snuggled, tickled, and kissed, but sometimes you don’t and that’s OK. Let me know if anyone—family member, friend, or anyone else—touches you or talks to you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.”

Is there a way to educate our children about this without instilling fear?

To teach children about sexual abuse it is important to explain about private parts. Clearly identify for your child which parts of their anatomy are private. Explain to your child that “some places on your body should never be touched by other people—except when you need help in the bathroom, or are getting dressed, or when you go to the doctor.” You can do this with young children during bath time or have your child dress in a bathing suit and show them that all areas covered by a bathing suit are “private.” The bathing suit analogy can be a bit misleading because it fails to mention that other parts of the body can be touched inappropriately (like mouth, legs, neck, arms), but it is a good start for little ones to understand the concept of private parts.

To teach about sexual abuse offenders, it is important to teach your kids about “tricky people.” Tricky people are grown-ups who ask kids for help or tell kids to keep a secret from their parents. Teach your kids not to do anything or go anywhere with any adult at all, unless they ask for permission first.

Aside from reading your book to our kids, what are some practical things we parents can do to protect our children from sexual abuse?
In our book, the last page is to parents and called, “9 Ways to Protect Your Children from Sexual Abuse.” Some of the key practical things parents can do are: teach proper names of private body parts, talk about touches, throw out the word “secret,” and identify whom to trust. You can read about all 9 here.

This subject is so hard to talk about. What advice do you have for parents who want to create an open environment in their home, so children always feel comfortable talking to them about issues related to their sexuality or body?

We remind parents that some people are out their looking to prey on our children. We have a duty to protect and prepare them for the world and to fight for them. By talking with them candidly (and again developmentally appropriate) about their bodies we are setting up safe guards around them.

Dr. John T. Chirban has written an excellent book How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex that we highly recommend to all parents. He explains: “Someone is going to teach your kids about sex…shouldn’t it be you?” His book gives parents tools to talk with their children about the connections between sex, intimacy, and love.

Thank you, Justin & Lindsey, for visiting my blog and, more importantly, for creating this helpful resources for children, parents, and care-givers. May the Lord use it to protect thousands of children from evil.

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Exciting offer from New Growth Press:

If you pre-order God Made All of Me by September 7 and receive $100 worth of free music and books. Visit www.godmadeallofme.com for more information.

To keep up with Justin and Lindsey Holcomb, visit www.godmadeallofme.com. You can also like and follow Justin or Lindsey's pages on Facebook or follow them on Twitter (@justinholcomb and @lindseyholcomb).

And don't forget to enter my contest for a free copy of "God Made All Of Me."


* Some of these questions were supplied by the authors--very helpful for getting to the central ideas of the book.

Saturday, August 22, 2015