Showing posts with label WTS. Show all posts
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Friday, April 27, 2018

Appreciating CCEF

The Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF) is celebrating their 50th anniversary this year, and I couldn’t appreciative them more.

CCEF has had a profound influence in my life and ministry. When I was a rookie pastor drowning in the difficulties and complexities of shepherding people, my friend Robert D. Jones introduced me the Journal of Biblical Counseling and the ministry of this biblical counseling think-tank based in Philadelphia. I didn’t know it at the time, but Bob had opened the door to some of the richest teaching and wonderful people who would greatly shape my thinking, my spiritual growth, and my whole approach to pastoral ministry–and even shoot me into the world of publishing!

CCEF was used by the Lord Jesus to revolutionize my philosophy of ministry. Actually, they really brought my philosophy of ministry fully home. "Biblical counseling" was simply working out in a practical way all of the implications, entailments, and applications of my theology: progressive sanctification, every-member ecclessiology, biblical anthropology, the sufficiency of Scripture.

I had been taught that biblical counseling was "take 2 Bible verses and call me in the morning," and that it saw every life problem as sin and that if your only tool was a hammer, then every problem would look like a nail. But the JBC told me something different. Every issue was full of true, do-able, timeless wisdom. And it was well-written and hopeful. It was engaging, and it met me right where I needed. It scratched me right where I itched.

Over the years, I went deeper into the ministry of CCEF: training sessions, workshops, books, audio recordings (what we used to call "tapes"), and eventually classes at Biblical Theological Seminary and Westminister Theological Seminary with CCEF faculty–David Powlison, Tim Lane, Bill Smith, Ed Welch, Winston Smith, Mike Emlet.

While at WTS, I had the idea of doing my doctoral project on the problem of gossip–how to biblically recognize, resist, and repent of it. Not only did the faculty encourage this idea, Ed Welch even suggested that I write my project as a book and then agreed to write the foreword when it was published by CLC five years ago.

And then after I graduated with my doctorate in pastoral counseling, the folks at CCEF have continued to encourage and challenge me. They published some of my work in the Journal of Biblical Counseling and on their blog, and they invited me to teach my resisting gossip material at their national conference. It’s a marvel to me that I have been able to contribute in a small way to the very thing that has been such a fountain of nourishment to me for the last two decades.

I don’t know where I’d be without CCEF. I do know that if there was no CCEF that my wife and kids wouldn’t be loved as well, my flock wouldn’t be cared for with as much loving skill, my preaching wouldn’t have as much insight into how the Bible maps onto everyday life, I wouldn’t know where to point people to consistently trustworthy resources for their problems, and there wouldn’t be a book floating around the world called Resisting Gossip: Winning the War of the Wagging Tongue. And most importantly, if there was no CCEF, I wouldn’t know Jesus as well or be as conformed to His image. CCEF has been a wonderful instrument in the Redeemer’s hands in my life. If the Lord tarries, I pray that He gives CCEF another 50 fruitful years of walking with others in wisdom and love.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

2 Sermons on Resisting Gossip by Jim Stewart

I love this!

This week while running the logsplitter to get us ready for Winter, I listened to two really good messages on resisting gossip by Pastor Jim Stewart of North Avenue Alliance Church, in Burlington Vermont:

    Gossip: A Community Killer

    Gossip: Don't Pass It On

Both messages are part of his ongoing series on being "Lonely in a Crowd." People are more technologically connected to each other than ever before and yet report feeling more lonely than ever before. Pastor Jim explains how Jesus is the answer to this problem. In these two messages, he identifies gossip as a community killer, defines it in terms recognizable to readers of Resisting Gossip with a focus on motivation, and lays out strategies for resisting this temptation ranging from very direct to very indirect.

Pastor Jim has read and recommends Resisting Gossip, but he doesn't merely repeat it. He has studied the biblical teaching and presents it in his own words, with his own stories, and in his own very engaging style. I especially enjoyed his unpacking and application of these phrases from 1 Corinthians 13 for resisting gossip: "Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." I also thought his explanation of idolatry in our gossip motivations was really well put, "Gossip serves as a substitute for God at that moment."

What a privilege it is to hear how Resisting Gossip is being used! I'm so encouraged that pastors are reading my work and then teaching their flocks what the Bible says about gossip. I pray that churches would be strengthened and biblical community flourish as we grow in our understanding of God's Word.



Today is the last day for Westminster Bookstore's fantastic sale on resources for resisting gossip.


Wednesday, October 29, 2014

The Definition of Gossip and the Art of Pastoring

Recently, I had an email conversation with a wise pastor who had some good practical questions about how to use my definition of gossip in pastoring people. Our interaction demonstrated a few things to me. First, that this is an important thing to be thinking about because it involves real people in real situations. Second, sometimes there are no easy answers. It's an art not a science. Third, pastoring is a terrific privilege and worth the hard work of learning to love people well.

I asked my new friend if I could post our conversation for others to read, and he said yes so long as we kept it anonymous. We don't want to gossip about those who might be gossiping! Below is a lightly edited version. Chime in, too, if you like, in the comments below.

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Hi, Pastor Matt,

I have a read and watched many of your resources and am thankful for your ministry to the church. I have a couple questions on gossip and would love to hear your thoughts if you have some time:
  • Is it gossip for people to tell me (as a pastor) things in a counseling session? If not why would that be different than one friend coming to another friend to receive counsel? 
  • For that matter is sharing things in counseling, or in small group settings when people share their personal history or testimony in general about family history, conflict, etc. gossip? 
  • Is it gossip to share parts of our story that involve others negatively? A woman in our church often talks with other gals sharing her experience of abuse by her ex-husband. But is she gossiping about him in order to minister to others? 
  • Is it gossip to tell someone to watch out for another person because of danger? Paul seems to do this with various people. If it’s not gossip does that mean one single gal telling another single gal “I wouldn’t date that guy because he did…”? 
  • Can spouses share everything with one another since they are one or is that still gossip? 
  • Last one: if there is distance of relationship does it not counted as gossip? For instance, if someone shares with their friend about how they struggle with their Mom’s trying to be involved in their parenting is it okay to share that since the friend doesn’t know the mom at all and it doesn’t become divisive. 
If your able, thank you in advance, if not no worries.

Pastor Anonymous

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Pastor Anon,

Great questions! Thanks for asking.

The short answer to all of them is, "It depends." It could be sinful gossip in any of those cases, but it might not be, especially depending upon motivations and how the information sharing was conducted (carefully and in love or carelessly, recklessly, and divisively?).

I've written a brief article about this on my blog, "So, Is This Gossip?" that might be helpful to you.

After reading that, let me know what you think.

Blessings,

-Matt

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Hi Matt,

Thanks for the quick response. I appreciate it.

I had read that blog and I think I’m still left with questions. I’m sure I’m looking for a hard fast rule that simply doesn’t exist.

Most all of the instances I listed are done in a hidden way so that part of the definition is present. However, the “bad heart” seems hard to define. I think many times the way people defend their (potential) gossip is by saying “I wasn’t doing it to harm anyone I just needed counsel.” While that may be true it can still cause harm. In addition “bad heart” might not be trying to harm another person but rather trying to make ourselves look, appear, feel good, etc. So…I guess maybe a follow up question would be how would you define bad heart in these contexts? And isn’t it possible to do something that’s not from a bad heart but still has bad effects and thus we should refrain to begin with? I don’t know the answers to these…want to help folks not gossip, and not participate in it in my role as a pastor but also don’t want to draw unnecessary and even harmful lines in the sand.

Thanks for listening,

Pastor Anonymous

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Dear Anony,

I understand. I went looking for those hard and fast rules when I did my biblical research and was disappointed to not find them.

The hard and fast rule we do have is that if we are loving those whom we are talking about and loving those to whom we are talking then we aren't going to be gossiping. What's difficult about that is that we can fool and justify ourselves and others can fool and justify themselves to us.

For ourselves, the more we are aware of our sinful tendencies and the biblical truth that undoes them, the more able we can be to see our own sin and turn away from it. That's the focus of my book. It's written to those who want to resist gossip in their own lives.

In ministry to others, we have to both (1) try not to judge others motives when they are doing something that looks, at first glance, unloving and sinful, and at the same time, (2) be discerning of possible motives that would be sliding a conversation into a dangerous place. We can really tell a lot about why someone is talking about someone else negatively by how they do it. Does it appear to be just someone running someone else down? Do we get facts and story that doesn't help anyone? Is there an attempt to provide alternate explanations for someone else's behavior or do they seem to be jumping to conclusions? Are the warnings being offered to others careful and nuanced based on facts or cutting and rash and based on feelings or hearsay? Is there evidence of the Golden Rule at work in this conversation or is it one-sided? In a conflict, has person A gone to person B, or are they talking about it with people C through Z who don't reasonably need to know any of these facts? Is there an obvious true, constructive, loving purpose to this conversation or is it aimless, careless, entertaining? You're right that our bad hearts may not be malicious to the one we are talking about but they might be careless and not thinking about the one we are talking about. That's a lack of love, as well.

Our pastoral response needs to be in proportion to what we discern is going on. If someone is spreading bad information, it's more cut and dried. If someone is calling families one-by-one in the church about a conflict to make sure that everyone knows all the details and won't go directly to the subjects of the talk, that's more obvious. But a few of your case studies call for more discernment.

Is that helpful? I could write more, but I'm trying to give the principle and let you work it out in your own practice.

-Matt

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This is good Matt, thanks for helping me to continue to think through this. Appreciate the time very much so.

- Anonymous

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You're welcome. It's a privilege to have gotten to study this on this level and share with others what I've been learning.

Blessings on you and your church family.

-Matt





Westminster Bookstore's fantastic sale on all resources for Resisting Gossip ends tomorrow.


Monday, October 27, 2014

More Sweet Tweets

As the fantastic Westminster Bookstore sale continues, I've seen some more neat tweets about our Resisting Gossip resources--so encouraging!











Thursday, October 23, 2014

Fantastic Prices on "Resisting Gossip Together" Packs at WTSBooks.com

I am humbled by the strong affirmation of our new Resisting Gossip resources by the folks at Westminster Bookstore.

Today, they announced their special sale prices in their e-newsletter, including a 5/5 pack of Resisting Gossip and Resisting Gossip Together at 47% off the retail price and $36 less than what it would cost on Amazon to buy them!


I was so encouraged by the letter by a WTS staff member included in the special offer. He said:



Amen. May it be so, to God's glory.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Big Sale at WTSBooks.com!

Looking for the best prices for Resisting Gossip and the brand new Resisting Gossip Together?

The folks at WTSBooks.com them both on sale here.

The special prices include:

Individual Books
Resisting Gossip Together: $4.00 (20% off)
Resisting Gossip: $8.00 (40% off)

Bundles
5 Book + 5 Participant's Guide Pack - $50.00 (47% off) includes .99 UPS Ground Shipping and free USPS shipping

[Coming Soon] 10 Resisting Gossip Together: $30.00 (40% off)

E-Books
Resisting Gossip ebook: $7.99
Resisting Gossip Together ebook: $4.00

It's so pleasing to see these deep discounts. I hope many small groups take advantage of these offers!

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Made My Week

Photo Credit: Isaac Mitchell
It really makes my day when I hear about Resisting Gossip being used in someone's life.

On Tuesday, I got a card from a ladies' small group from a church in Minnesota whose leader had been searching for a study on the problem of gossip and stumbled upon Resisting Gossip on September 6th (3 days after its release!).

Each of the ladies signed the card with a personal note of encouragement.

Thanks, ladies, for making my day week!

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Resisting Gossip is on sale perfect for small groups at WTSBooks.com (54% off if you buy 3 or more.

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Fabulous Sale of "Resisting Gossip" at WTSBooks.com

Good news!

The terrific folks at WTSBooks have put Resisting Gossip on sale again this week for only $7.00 (half off!) and $6.50 if you buy 3 or more!

That's a tremendous deal--perfect for small groups.

And it's paired with an amazing price for Paul Miller's new book A Loving Life. I can't wait to read that one.

Wednesday, October 09, 2013

Ed Welch's Counseling Wisdom in Quotable Quotes

In today's post at the Grace and Truth Blog at the Biblical Counseling Coalition, I share the story of taking a CCEF/WTS counseling methodology class under Ed Welch.

Ed and his class were different from what I expected, and I journaled what I was learning by taking down pithy- yet-loaded quotes and then organizing my thoughts about counseling methodology under the quotes as headings. I've tried to capture some of what I learned in this article.

The CCEF National Conference begins this Friday in Frisco, Texas. I wish I could be there like we were last year. It is exciting, however, that Resisting Gossip will be there in the conference bookstore with its unbelievably encouraging (and humbling!) foreword by Ed Welch.

Saturday, September 07, 2013

What a Week!

Whew! What a week this has been.

We kicked it off last Sunday with a joyful party to celebrate the release of Resisting Gossip (photos). It was so fun to give a copy to every family in the church and all of the visitors.  Dave and Deb Almack had a good time with us and went home with a couple dozen fresh eggs.

On Monday, we stood on tiptoes waiting for the book launch and passed the time comparing me with Uncle Si from Duck Dynasty.

Then the big day came! On Tuesday, I got a call from Dave Almack saying, "Happy Resisting Gossip Day!" and the book was officially released. I marked the occasion by remembering how I overwhelmed I was by Ed Welch's affirming words in the foreword--everything I aspire to be and hope the book is.

I was traveling to Pittsburgh on Tuesday for a pastoral visit and to visit some pastors. I got in the car early in the morning, and I didn't think about what time it was when I got in the van and headed out on I-80. I flipped on my radio.....and there was my own voice! I had tuned right into the pre-recorded interview with Dean Christian on WTLR! What a fun surprise!

When I got home from my trip, I was greeted with my favorite meal (porcupine meatballs) and my favorite dessert (texas sheet cake) and a ginormous "Congratulations" sign made by my daughter. Party time!


When we went to bed that night, Heather and I turned to our bed-time Psalm for the day, and it "just-so-happened" to be Psalm 16 which includes one of my favorite things to say about the blessings God has given me:

 LORD, you have assigned me my portion and my cup; you have made my lot secure.
The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.
Psalm 16:5-6

The next few days were whirlwinds of pastoral ministry (meetings, visits, sermon-prep, a funeral) while enjoying the "launch week."

Many people that I respect posted short reviews, interviews, endorsements, news stories, and guest posts including:
Resisting Gossip is now available lots of places online (even Wal-Mart.com?!) and some of the booksellers offered it this week at amazing introductory prices:

It's also now available on a growing list of e-book formats.

And it seems that we're just getting started. People are expressing interest in the book (the publisher even air-freighted orders this week to bookstores in the UK and Australia) and in interviews about the book (look for a Q&A at the Biblical Counseling Coalition next week).

Today, as I prepared tomorrow's sermon for Lanse Free Church, I told the Lord again what I said at the very end of the book, "I am especially grateful for my King and Rescuer, the Lord Jesus Christ. May You and Your Father get all the glory."

This week, the boundary lines have indeed fallen for me in pleasant places. Thank you, Lord!



Friday, September 06, 2013

Taking Sides on Gossip - Recap

In July and August, we embarked on a long (33 posts!) series about the various things people have said about gossip (both for and against).

This post is an index page to the whole series which was drawn from the pages of my doctoral project on the problem of gossip.

I ended that section of the project with this paragraph:
In this chapter, we have learned that, throughout history, many confusing and contradictory things have been said on the topic of gossip. Gossip’s proponents have argued for its inherent goodness and obvious usefulness. Gossip’s opponents have contended that it is wicked and destructive. While both cannot be right, there are things to be learned from both sides. Others have been coy about or unsure if gossip is either good or bad. The ongoing problem of definition, the dynamic expansion of technological means for gossip’s dissemination, and the profitability of gossip as entertainment have only exacerbated the confusion. Even those who are correctly positioned against sinful gossip have struggled to define it clearly or to provide consistently helpful teaching on how to resist it. This is the cultural milieu into which the ministry model described in the next chapter attempts to speak.
That "ministry model in the next chapter" is what is now the book Resisting Gossip: Winning the War of the Wagging Tongue.

Here are all of the posts in this series:

New Series: Taking Sides on Gossip

Evolutionary Scientists and Gossip

Philosophers and Ethicists on Gossip

Literary Scholars and Gossips

Exacerbating the Problem of Gossip

Exploiting Gossip

Ambiguity and Ambivalence about Gossip #1

How to Gossip - by the British Association of Gossipmongers

Gossip and Pastoral Counseling

"The No Gossip Zone" - Business Leaders and Gossip

Educators and Social Workers on Gossip

Jewish Moral Teaching Against Gossip #1: "Lashon Hora"

Jewish Moral Teaching Against Gossip #2: Rules, Rules, Rules

Jewish Moral Teaching Against Gossip #3: Where Forgiveness Comes From

Martin Luther on Gossip

Richard Baxter on Gossip

Jonathan Edwards on Gossip

Charles Simeon on Gossip

Charles Spurgeon on Gossip

Ken Sande on Gossip

Joe Stowell on Gossip

Franklyn Wise on Gossip

Deborah Smith Pegues on Gossip

Jerry Bridges on Gossip

Martha Peace on Gossip

Ray Ortlund Versus Gossip

Brenda Payne Versus Gossip

Rounding Up "Taking Sides on Gossip"

Book Review -- "Grapevine: The Spirituality of Gossip"

Book Review -- "Overcoming Gossips" by David Kamara

Book Review -- "A Bible Handbook on Slander and Gossip" by Robert Morey

Book Review -- "Gossip and the Gospel" by Timothy Williams

Book Review -- "Stop the Runaway Conversation" by Michael Sedler

Wednesday, September 04, 2013

WTSBooks.com - Terrific Deal on "Resisting Gossip"

Right now WTSBooks.com is offering Resisting Gossip for only $7.00 per copy (50% off!) and $6.50 if you buy 3 or more (that's 54% off)!



Read more about about this sale on their E-News notification for this week alongside great CCEF titles.


Friday, August 30, 2013

Book Review -- "Stop the Runaway Conversation" by Michael Sedler

Up till now, the best Christian book on gossip (and the only book length treatment that I can heartily endorse) is Stop the Runaway Conversation: Take Control Over Gossip and Criticism by Michael Sedler.[1] Unlike the works analyzed above, this creative and aptly titled book is not primarily about what to do when one is gossiped about or even how to keep from speaking gossip. Instead, Stop the Runaway Conversation is focused on teaching Christians “what to do when others want us to engage in ungodly conversation with them.”[2] Sedler concentrates on the idea of an “evil report. . . . When an individual maliciously injures, damages or discredits another’s reputation or character through the use of words or attitude.”[3] He wants to teach Christians to not defile themselves through receiving evil reports. Sedler repeatedly and effectively emphasizes the contaminating effects of sinful gossip on the hearts of those who listen to it.

Stop the Runaway Conversation has many strengths. Sedler knows his Bible, and it shows. He is at his best when he is telling a story from the scriptures and unpacking its principles and relevant applications. He also illustrates nearly all of the applications with true-to-life and personal stories. Each chapter ends with good discussion questions. Sedler teaches believers about the warning signs of impending gossip,[4] pernicious strategies that gossipers use to seduce listeners and create “false alignments,”[5] and how to recognize when fear has seized control of a conversation.[6]

Sedler offers not only warning but hope. “A bleak and depressing picture? Yes, it is. Unless Jesus Christ is active in our lives we have little hope of escaping the snare of deception. Fortunately we serve a God of second chances. . . . What an awesome and powerful God! He cares deeply for His people.”[7] Sedler offers multiple strategies of what to do instead of receiving evil reports, and there is an entire chapter devoted to being cleansed from the defiling effects of gossip.[8]

The criticisms that I have of Stop the Runaway Conversation are relatively minor and mostly matters of emphasis. At times, Sedler offers definitions that I would want to qualify or nuance. I would also value more teaching on the connection between the heart and words of a gossip. Even though at one point, Sedler offers ten heart motives that might produce gossip, he seems to answer the basic question, “Why do we gossip?” with the answer “confusion.”[9] He seems, at times, to lean towards a “need-based” psychology. I would also like to hear more about how the good news of Jesus Christ counteracts gossip. At times, the gospel seems to be assumed rather than proclaimed.

On balance, however, Stop the Runaway Conversation is a very helpful book. Sedler lovingly challenges believers to be bold for Christ.
You recognize that the conversation is heading towards an ungodly discussion. You follow the suggested approaches found in previous chapters, such as asking questions in an attempt to understand the motivation of the speakers: “Do you need to be telling me this information?” “Have you talked directly with the people involved in this scenario?” So what happens after you have questioned the person and made it clear that you are not interested in being a part of the evil report, but he or she persists in telling you? At this point, you must take a stand.[10]
Amen. No matter what has been said in its defense by its many diverse and creative proponents, by God’s grace and in his power, sinful gossip must be resisted.




[1]Michael Sedler, Stop the Runaway Conversation: Take Control Over Gossip and Criticism (Grand Rapids: Chosen Books, 2001).
[2]Ibid., 14.
[3]Ibid., 15.
[4]Michael Sedler, Stop the Runaway Conversation: Take Control Over Gossip and Criticism (Grand Rapids: Chosen Books, 2001), 22-32.
[5]Ibid., 59-108.
[6]Ibid., 109-126.
[7]Ibid., 156.
[8]Ibid., 157-175.
[9]Michael Sedler, Stop the Runaway Conversation: Take Control Over Gossip and Criticism (Grand Rapids: Chosen Books, 2001), 47. It must be noted, however, that Sedler’s definition of confusion is not morally neutral. “Listening to conflicting voices and refusing to submit to the one of higher authority.” (ibid., 47).
[10]Ibid., 77. In his follow-up book, Sedler helps readers to distinguish between times when silence is golden and when it is not. Michael D. Sedler, When to Speak Up and When to Shut Up (Grand Rapids: Revell, 2003).

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Since I originally wrote these words, this book has been re-released with a new title and cover: Stopping Words That Hurt: Positive Words in a World Gone Negative.  The first two chapters are currently available online to download.  To my knowledge, the content is the same as before.

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Note: With this post, we have rounded up our long blog series systematically working through my doctoral research into the literature about the problem of gossip.

My own contribution to the literature, Resisting Gossip: Winning the War of the Wagging Tongue will be available on Tuesday from booksellers like these!

Amazon

CLC Book Center

ChristianBook.com

WTSBooks.com

Next Step Resources

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Book Review -- "Gossip and the Gospel" by Timothy Williams

Timothy Williams believes that “any church worth its salt in Jesus will have far more enemies than members.”[1] In fact, a believer can track the gossip and slander to locate a healthy church. “In short, follow the gossip if you want to find a godly church. Any true church of Jesus will be slandered.”[2]

Williams, a former pastor turned self-publishing executive,[3] has obviously experienced the pain of being slandered as a church leader. In Gossip and the Gospel, he tells several stories of accusatory lies being spread about him and the churches that he has led. Williams takes those painful experiences as a mark of being a genuine Christian. “To discover the joy of the narrow road, any seeker of God will have to move way past this huge crowd of gossipers in order to find the true gospel.”[4]

Gossip and the Gospel was written to warn believers of the wickedness and dangers of gossip and slander. “The church has forgotten that gossip is a vile sin before God.”[5] Williams not only speaks from experience but is passionate about scripture and teaches from a broad range of biblical texts. I was greatly aided in my study by looking up, in their contexts, each text that he had quoted throughout the book. Williams offers several helpful insights about gossip, especially what it feels like to be gossiped about,[6] how gossip is often an attack upon authority figures,[7] how we need to trust God when slandered and not always defend ourselves,[8] and how gossip cannot be simply refrained from but must also be replaced with edifying speech.[9]

Williams is very creative. Perhaps the best thing in Gossip and the Gospel is his “recipe” for “Sinfully Rich Choice Morsels.”
1 cup of pride – Proverbs 21:24, 3/4 cup hearsay - Ephesians 4:29, ½ cup evil suspicions – 1 Timothy 6:3-4 . . . 1. Mix together all ingredients in a bowl of betrayal. – Proverbs 16:28, Matthew 26:23, 2. Pour into a medium saucepan and bring to a boil; constantly stirring. – Proverbs 6:14 . . . 5. Sprinkle with the truth (optional). – Romans 1:25 6. Serve hot to itching ears, warm to those not minding their own business, and cold to those fearful. – Acts 14:2, 1 Thessalonians 4:11; 2 Timothy 4:3 . . . Makes Unlimited Servings.[10]
There is much to learn from here. And yet, Gossip and the Gospel is not a book that I can heartily recommend. It seems excessively alarmist, unbalanced, unclear, unhelpful, and possibly dangerous.

In my view, Williams goes “over the top” in his zeal to warn against the sinful dangers of gossip. For example, the cover of the book features a photograph of a woman with a forked snake’s tongue slithering out of her mouth towards a man’s ear. Then a presentation page declares, “Presented Out of Love . . . This book is given to [blank] in hopes they will repent of the sin of gossip, slur, slander, or bitter roots.”[11] I cannot imagine a situation where this approach would actually be helpful.

Throughout the book, Williams employs unclear language, using what seems like “insider terminology” that I often could not decipher. At times, he also offers questionable advice. For example, he asks, “Have you ever . . . Felt irritated with someone and not confessed your irritation to them? . . . Had a bad attitude about someone and didn’t confess it to them?”[12] I think that inner, attitudinal sins should only be confessed if they have spawned sinful behavior.[13] Confessing each moment of irritation with another could have even more disastrous effects. He also gives these points of questionable counsel: “Do not hold onto any thought that you are right on some point. . . . You must never, ever speak to the person who started the bitter root until they fully repent. . . . Repay the truth four times the amount you lied. Never tire of telling others how wrong you were and the real truth.”[14]

Williams’ unclear language applies, not just to counsel, but to doctrine. He emphasizes the ministry of the Holy Spirit but seems to have a very mystical, subjective relationship with the Spirit and is very confident in his own ability to know when the Spirit wants something in particular. “Now, I know when, in the Holy Spirit, to keep a secret, but harboring unrepentant sinners does not please a Holy God.”[15] Even worse, Williams appears to believe that a Christian can lose their salvation by falling into gossip. “Gossip is not a minor sin, and it can cost a person their name in the Book of Life.”[16]

Most unfortunately, and despite its title, the gospel is not clear in Gossip and the Gospel. While Williams repeatedly mentions the cross, there is no exposition of the atonement, no explanation of justification, no numbering of the blessings that come from the gospel. By and large, the cross seems to only be something that a follower of Christ picks up and carries or something that crucifies the flesh, not God’s gracious provision of propitiation, forgiveness, and eternal life. Williams may be (and very likely is) orthodox in his understanding of the gospel, but this never comes through in the book.

Aside from the power of the Holy Spirit, there is not much hope offered in Gossip and the Gospel. Perhaps this is flavored by Williams’ own church experiences as they seem, unfortunately, to have all been bad.[17] It is true that followers of Christ can and should expect to be slandered, but there can also be times when the church enjoys the favor of the people around it (Acts 2:47).



[1]Timothy Williams, Gossip and the Gospel (Enumclaw: WinePress Publishing, 2004), 16.
[2]Ibid., 18.
[3]Gossip and the Gospel, like Overcoming Gossips and A Bible Handbook on Gossip and Slander, is self-published. The author, however, is now also the executive publisher of WinePress Publishing.
[4]Timothy Williams, Gossip and the Gospel (Enumclaw: WinePress Publishing, 2004), 17.
[5]Ibid., 15.
[6]Ibid., 104.
[7]Ibid., 91-102.
[8]Ibid., 131-138.
[9]Ibid., 123-129.
[10]Timothy Williams, Gossip and the Gospel (Enumclaw: WinePress Publishing, 2004), 106. This recipe has been adopted as the “No Gossip Policy” at WinePress Publishing. http://www.winepresspublishing.com/about/no_gossip (accessed July 19, 2011).
[11]Ibid., 5.
[12]Ibid., 115.
[13]See Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict, 3rd Edition (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 2004), 127.
[14]Timothy Williams, Gossip and the Gospel (Enumclaw: WinePress Publishing, 2004), 117-118. Any of these points of advice might be good when balanced with other scriptural principles, but there are no balance points offered.
[15]Ibid., 27.
[16]Ibid., 56.
[17]And similarly to Robert Morey’s A Bible Handbook of Gossip and Slander, Williams’ book never calls for humble self-examination of any of the accusations to see what could be learned from them.

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Update: Since I originally wrote these words, Gossip and the Gospel has been re-released with a new, more friendly cover. It also now available as a free download. I don't know if any of the content has been revised.

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Note: We are rounding up a long blog series working through my doctoral research into the problem of gossip.

My contribution to the literature, Resisting Gossip: Winning the War of the Wagging Tongue will soon be available:

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Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Countdown: Just 7 Days to the Release of "Resisting Gossip!"


Rejoice with me!

It's hard to believe that it's almost here. Resisting Gossip will be released in just one week from CLC Publications.

It's been 5 years since I originally had the idea of a study of the problem of gossip as a doctoral project at Westminster Theological Seminary under the leadership of the faculty of CCEF.

And now, the fruit of that project is going to be available to help Christians to recognize, resist, and respond to sinful gossip.

Praise the Lord!

If you want to know more, you can preview, download, and read the endorsements, table of contents, foreword by Ed Welch of CCEF, introduction, and first chapter at the CLC Facebook page or watch the video trailer below.

Resisting Gossip will be available through these and other booksellers at great prices:

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Book Review -- "A Bible Handbook on Slander and Gossip" by Robert Morey

Internet apologist Robert Morey is no stranger to conflict. Anyone who steps into the public arena to strongly debate items vital to religion will find themselves in a battle, but an Internet search on Morey’s name reveals an exceptionally long list of accusations fired at him from many sides. Whether these accusations are slander or truth is not for me to judge, but they certainly demonstrate Morey’s credentials as someone who has had to deal with accusations.

Morey’s A Bible Handbook on Slander and Gossip focuses on the malicious kind of gossip (not the idle variety), especially on slanderous, attacking speech.[1] It is mainly written for Christian leaders. “If you are a pastor, elder, deacon or missionary reading this book, do not be surprised when people hate and slander your good name and even attack your family. The devil has always used gossip and slander to attack God’s servants.”[2]

The chief strength of A Bible Handbook on Slander and Gossip is the copious use of scripture. Morey has collected a fairly comprehensive list of texts from both testaments that relate to the topic of slander. He has then assembled commentary from reputable scholars to quote at length in connection with each text. The book is also peppered with stories that illustrate the principles being taught.

Unfortunately, Morey’s self-published book is not very useful as a manual of what to do if you are attacked by slander and gossip. It is not easily accessible and does not offer a series of steps to pursue. It is mainly a compendium of data on the subject. Most of the book consists of verbatim quotations from commentaries with little explanation of what one is reading. The quotations are duly noted at the end of the book, but because they are very long and not attributed at the beginning of each quote, the reader can be easily confused about whose thoughts they are reading. A Bible Handbook on Slander and Gossip is arranged in a traditional outline form so that the indentions for the plenteous block quotes result in ridiculous margins for most of the pages. It very hard to read. There is no index, and the table of contents lists only the numbers of the chapters, not their names or subjects.

Once accessed, the content of the book is pretty good, although Morey, aside from a list of twenty-one characteristics of a gossip monger, has himself offered few original thoughts. The tone throughout is mortally serious, and the book is filled with breathless warnings and condemnations of slander. Ignoring critics and practicing church discipline are the main remedies that a Christian leader can apply. It is perhaps telling that Morey nowhere suggests a few moments of humble self-examination to see if the critical accusations have any truth in them.[3]



[1]Robert A. Morey, A Bible Handbook on Slander and Gossip. (LaVergne: Xulon Press, 2009).
[2]Ibid., xi.
[3]Much better is the approach taken in Alfred Poirier, “The Cross and Criticism,”Journal of Biblical Counseling 17, no. 3 (Spring 1999): 16-20.

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Note: We are rounding up a long blog series working through my doctoral research into the problem of gossip.

My contribution to the literature, Resisting Gossip: Winning the War of the Wagging Tongue will soon be available:

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Friday, August 23, 2013

Book Review -- "Overcoming Gossips" by David Kamara

Pastor David Kamara wants to encourage Christians who are the target of malicious gossip to be overcomers. In his self-published book, Overcoming Gossips, Kamara argues that gossip is prevalent, hurtful, and satanically motivated but is absolutely surmountable by followers of Jesus Christ.[1]

As a book, Overcoming Gossips has several strengths. First, it is filled with scripture quotes and biblical references. Second, it includes short true stories of people who have been harmed by gossip and also helped by remembering their identity in Christ. Third, Kamara’s basic argument is sound. Those who understand who they are in Christ can gain confidence to survive the suffering of malicious gossip.

Overcoming Gossips also has significant weaknesses. English does not appear to be Pastor Kamara’s first language, so his writing is very difficult to follow. And while abounding with scripture, multiple translations are put to use, especially the Amplified and Living Bibles, apparently chosen at each point based upon how much they prove the author’s point.

The most concerning feature of Overcoming Gossips is how it veers, at times, into a triumphalistic tone. Pastor Kamara appears to be a Pentecostal Christian with an emphasis on personal success.
Beloved, the glory of the Lord is already upon you and that is why you are being gossiped [sic]. People don’t spend time talking about a loser. They only talk about winner and you are one of them. . . . By destiny, you are a shining star and the only one that can stop you from shining is you (yourself) [sic]. Not some demons or gossips. . . . Praise God! You will shine in Jesus’ name![2]
Overcoming Gossips is full of truth but tends toward an over-realized eschatology. “It doesn’t matter what you are going through, as long as you team up with God in prayer you will never be defeated. Never mind the group against you, just always know that as long as God is with you, you are a permanent overcomer. So rise up and take your position.”[3]

Kamara’s book could be substantially improved by balancing these confident statements with scriptures that teach that believers in this age will continue to suffer and are called to faithful perseverance while they wait for Jesus’ kingdom to come in its fullness.




[1]David Kamara, Overcoming Gossips (Bloomington: AuthorHouse, 2007).
[2]Ibid., 71-72.
[3]Ibid., 82.

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Note: We are rounding up a long blog series working through my doctoral research into the problem of gossip.

My contribution to the literature, Resisting Gossip: Winning the War of the Wagging Tongue will soon be available:

Amazon

CLC Book Center

ChristianBook.com

WTSBooks.com

Next Step Resources